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Well, this is basically a follow-up to my previous post. I said in the last post that I strongly believe in courtship and a relationship reflecting our relationship with Christ, but what exactly is that going to look like?

First of all, I think the relationship is going to reflect certain attributes not seen in those of unbelievers. As Christians, every other part of our life should reflect the glory of Christ, so why should relationships be any different? It is so easy to get caught up in your love of the other person that you can forget your one true and never-ceasing lover: God. The one that loved you enough to choose you, and then send His son to fulfill that election, so that you could be saved from sin. Isn’t it completely ridiculous to never remember this in our relationships? Isn’t it insane to never thank God for, first of all what He’s done for us, and then thank Him that he has given us this person!

Another thing that should reflect Christ in our relationship is the way that we interact with one another. I am reminded every time I see the portion of the Pigrim’s Progress play in which Passion and Patience are being displayed for Christian. Passion desires everything now, and then, a little while later, has nothing left. Patience waits for the governor’s time to receive her gifts, and is in that way very happy. Christian remarks in the play that Patience’s waiting must be a difficult thing to attain. I said a little bit about this in my previous post, but wanted to add it in this one. God has blessed us with gifts that are to be used between two people, and those two people alone. As the world uses those gifts prematurely, like Passion, they are soon left with nothing to endulge in. Like Patience, we should wait for the “Governor’s” timing to endulge in our gifts, namely, sharing them only with the one we are spending the rest of our lives with.

Not only do we want to reflect Christ by using the gifts he has given us wisely, but with our words and actions as well. We should always display a spirit of gentleness, love, and graciousness. We should never be harsh with one another, but instead respect what the other has to say, and show how much you love them by not disrespecting their love. Imagine what would have happened if Christ, while dying on the cross, with people mocking him, and he had yelled, “SHUT UP! DON’T YOU REALIZE I’M DOING THIS FOR YOU?!” Instead, he prayed for them, telling God to forgive them, for they did not know what they were doing. I really think this sort of attitude should be reflected in your relationship with each other.

Of course, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. But, a relationship that is reflecting the love of Christ is as close to perfect as you can get.